We all have our own spirit guides. We have guides that are ancestors and deceased family members. Some entities may have names. In some cases it may be a group of guides that all have the same name. You’ll deepen your connection to your spirit guides and learn how to call on them anytime.

If you haven’t had experiences like these, I welcome you to keep an open mind. If you are willing to connect with your spirit guides, these 10 simple and beautiful steps will help you. Maybe this sounds a little trippy to you. If so, let me reassure you. Your guides are loving and wise. They are here to support you. Connecting with them is a comforting and joyful experience.

These guides are only here to give you love and light. There are plenty of entities in this sphere, but the guides that we call on, our spirit guides, are only here for love and light. In this blog you’ll learn how to call in only the spirits of the highest truth and compassion and love.

If you are ready to invite in that voice of love, follow these 10 steps to connect to your spirit guides.

1. Get into the habit of asking

The first step to connecting with your spirit guides is to get into the habit of asking. We often forget that we have guidance within us and around us. We can remember it when we’re reading a book like The Universe Has Your Back, or when we’re in a yoga class, or we’re doing a Kundalini meditation. In those spiritual situations, we can remember that there’s a guidance beyond us.

But in the busyness of day-to-day life, it’s really easy to forget this connection. When we forget about it, we start to rely on our strength. That’s when fear starts to set in.

In order to change this, we have to change our habits. It’s important that you start getting into the habit of asking your guides for help. The more you ask, the more you receive — period.

Think about all the things that you need help with. Maybe you need help conceiving, or making more money, or healing a relationship that’s struggling.

Make a list of the five to 10 biggest things you need help with. You can do this now, or you can come back to this exercise after aligning with your inner wisdom through prayer or meditation. Listen to that inner wisdom and let the thoughts come through.

Once you have made this list, offer up everything you need help with and invite in the guides of the highest truth and compassion to reveal solutions. Say, “Thank you, guides of the highest truth and compassion, for revealing the solutions to these problems.” Then go through your list.

Some examples…

• “Thank you, guides of the highest truth and compassion, for offering solutions to my issue with my health.”
• “Thank you, guides of the highest truth and compassion, for revealing the solutions to the problems I’m having in my marriage.”
• “Thank, you guides of the highest truth and compassion, for revealing the solutions to my struggle with finding a career I love.”

Just go one by one asking the guides to help you. If you want to get really laser focused, you can choose just one and offer it up daily for a while.

Remember always to call in the guides of the highest truth and compassion. You don’t want to invite the funky guides to the party! Be very specific and clear about what kind of guidance you’re calling in so you don’t get any riff-raff coming through.

As with the human world, there are lots of different characters, and we don’t always want to invite every character over for dinner. The same goes for spiritual relationships. We want to open up our consciousness, space and energy only to the guides of the highest truth and compassion.

Don’t worry about this too much. You call the shots, so do not fear those other entities! They can’t come in without your permission. Just make sure to call in only the guides of the highest truth and compassion.

A final note on step 1: You don’t have to wait for a problem to crop up in order to call on your spirit guides. Before I get on stage, every time I give a talk, the first thing I say backstage to myself is, “Thank you, guides of the highest truth and compassion, for speaking through me.” Whenever I do that, I know that the words that I need will come through me. The simple act of asking is all that is required for the guidance to show up.

 2. Listen

The second step in connecting to your spirit guides is to listen. The way to do this is through meditation. When you meditate, you quiet your mind so that you can hear the wisdom of the guidance that’s within you and around you.

We have to slow down our vibration to become aligned with the presence of these guides. When we attune our energy to the frequency of love and peace, we can more easily connect to the vibrational messaging of our spirit guides.

You can say a prayer such as, “Thank you, guides of the highest truth and compassion. Thank you for showing me what I need to know. Thank you for leading me in the right direction. Thank you for whatever it is that I need.”

Then you can sit in meditation for five, 10 or 20 minutes. This can be a very simple meditation. You can simply pay attention to your breath, becoming mindful of the sounds and sensations around you. Or you can repeat a mantra silently, which is one of my favorite ways to meditate. (If you’re new to meditation, check out my Beginner’s Guide to Meditation.)

3. Write with your spirit guides

Once you’ve meditated, your next step is to write with your spirit guides. Open your journal or just grab a few sheets of paper. At the top, write an invitation to them, such as:

• “Thank you, guides of the highest truth and compassion, for revealing to me the solutions to these issues.”
• “Thank you, guides of the highest truth and compassion, for revealing to me whatever you want me to know.”
• “Dear guides of the highest truth and compassion, I welcome you to write through me now.”

Then simply let your pen flow.

Just riff onto the page. Let whatever needs to come through come through. Ideas, stories, topics, inspired visions, things that you may not have thought of on your own, will begin to come onto the page.

You may find in this writing experience that your guides begin speaking to you directly. Instead of writing in the first person you may begin writing in the second person. When I am channeling my guides they often say, “Dear sister…”

In some cases, your handwriting might even change. You might feel a presence of energy moving through you. You might feel a heat in your body. And that means that there’s a presence that’s working through you to give you some kind of direction.

4. Ask for a sign

Your guides can play fun games with you! They like to show you that they’re present. So get playful with them and ask them for a sign. If you’ve read The Universe Has Your Back, you know my sign is an owl. Sometimes I ask for lilies. Sometimes I ask for numbers in sequence.

Recently I’ve been healing some physical things, and for a while I kept getting numbers in sequence. It was just the guides saying, “We’ve got you. We’re with you.”

Have you never asked for a sign before? Or have you asked but not known whether you received it? Read this blog to learn how to ask for a sign and know when you’ve received clear guidance.

You’ll be blown away when you start to ask your guides to show you signs! It will rock your world.

5. Pay attention to the guidance you receive

It’s one thing to ask for guidance. It’s another thing to witness it, to really take it in and relish in the presence that’s supporting you.

When you pay attention to the guidance you receive, you’re letting yourself be in the awe and wonder of all the love that is around you. It’s a big deal. This beautiful feeling is available when you truly let yourself be the witness of this amazing support that is always with you.

The practice of paying attention to guidance isn’t about demanding. You don’t go around all day asking, “Where’s my guidance? Where’s my guidance?” Instead, you simply allow yourself to be open to the wonder of that guidance.

Your guidance may show up in cool and unexpected ways, even in ways I haven’t mentioned here. Your guidance can show up as a song on the radio, or maybe a spark of light, or somebody saying to you exactly what you needed to hear. Our guides work through other people. They work through doctors, friends, children and even strangers.